have you heard it is ok to kidnap a girl or woman who you love
and want her to become your bride and wife?
what will happen, if you as a girl had been kidnap by some guy
who fall in love with you but you did not know he has a feeling to you
and when you parents knew that you had being kidnapped and they
did not worried at all about you missing from your house
because of being kidnapped? I am sure if this happen to you
your parents will quickly make a police report and advertise
about your missing in newspaper and television and find
you wherever you are......
but this bride kidnapping cases are accepted in some culture
this culture somehow cannot be against
this situation called as bride kidnapping
what is that means?
Bride Kidnapping is known as marriage by abduction or marriage by capture,
is a practice throughout history and around the world in which a man
abducts the woman he wishes to marry. Bride kidnapping still occurs in
countries spanning Central Asia, the Caucasus region, and parts of
Africa, and among peoples as diverse as the Hmong in Southeast Asia, the
Tzeltal in Mexico, and the Romani in Europe.
bride kidnapping in Kyrgyzstan called
ALA KACHU
what is Ala Kachu?
Ala kachuu (Kyrgyz ала качуу) is a form of bride kidnapping still practised in Kyrgyzstan. The term can apply to a variety of actions, ranging from a consensual elopement to a non-consensual kidnapping and to what extent it actually happens is controversial. Some sources
suggest that currently at least a third of Kyrgyzstan's brides are taken
against their will.
"Kyz ala kachuu" (кыз ала качуу)
means"to take a young woman and run away"
Some say it means to take a young woman who does not belong to you and run away.
A typical kidnapping is often conducted by a group of males who take the
bride to their home. The bride is often isolated and kept under the
charge of the kidnapper’s female relatives, chiefly the groom’s mother
or grandmother.
They take her to his family home, where she is kept in a room until the
man's female relatives convince her to put on the scarf of a married
woman as a sign of acceptance. Sometimes, if the woman resists the
persuasion and maintains her wish to return home, her relatives try to
convince her to agree to the marriage.
The white veil is known to mark when the wedding occurs and it is at
this point that the brides can no longer go back to their families. Even
when sex does not take place, once a woman has been kept overnight –
even for a single night – her virginity is put in doubt.
There are many misconceptions about the tradition of bride kidnapping,
from a belief that it is an Islamic practice, to the belief that it only
occurs in the most rural parts of Kyrgyzstan. In fact, it takes place
in all parts of Kyrgyzstan; both rural and urban areas, remote villages
and bustling cities, and it can find no premise in the Islamic religion.
Studies have shown that forms of bride kidnapping are also prevalent in
neighbouring countries such as Turkmenistan, Kazakhstan, Chechnya and
the Caucus.
There are many reasons that women stay with their new husbands and
accept the ‘marriage’. In some cases, the kidnappings are so violent and
brutal that the women believe they are going to be killed; when faced
with marriage, they see it as a better option. Facing ostracisation from
their society is often also reason enough to accept.
Young women who refuse to accept the wedding usually face this situation:
1. No one either family speaks about the attempt so that neither family is shamed
2. The woman returns to her family and lives as though nothing happened
3. The woman is rejected by her shamed family and moves to another place
4. The women is convinced by her family to return to the abductor's family and accept the marriage
Once a kidnapping takes place, the young woman is admonished to stay. However, there is no cultural requirement that men must kidnap. Young men are frequently pressured by family or friends to kidnap wives to show their manly site of their generation. Able and succeed kidnapped their waves means they are hero in their village but if they refuse the pressure, they just do not kidnap anyone. While the expectation is that young men and women will marry, if they marry by the approved of prior parental approval/arrangement, there is no criticism.
According to Islamic Sharia Law, any marriage
that is forced in any way is null and void. The Islamic marriage contract
consists of an offer (ijab) and acceptance (qabul) that occur at the same
meeting. In order for the contract to be valid, the man and woman must both
hear and understand the offer and acceptance. This fact is not widely known in
Kyrgyzstan, but as more Imams are being educated outside the country, and as
more people are drawing attention to the fact that kidnapped woman are being
kept overnight and not giving their prior consent, some Imams preach against
the practice and threaten to refuse to bless kidnap marriages. Most Kyrgyz are
only nominally Muslim, but this is one factor that is part of the education
movement against kidnapping that is emerging around the country.
Material on the illegality and negative
effects of kidnapping are also being planned for the civic education curriculum
for secondary schools. This will probably have more influence than the teaching
of the Islamic leaders, but it is important to have the anti-kidnapping message
come from all institutions in the society.
‘’Forcing a woman to
marry, to continue a marriage or kidnapping her in order to marry
without her consent, is a violation of Kygyz criminal law, Islamic
Sharia Law, Kyrgyz tradition (adat), and of her fundamental human rights of security, freedom and equality.’’
-Dr Russell Kleinbach, Kys Korgan Institute-
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